Even though relocation can be difficult for you, you must remember how hard it can be on your family. It can even feel unfair to your children, since they often feel like they don’t have a choice in the decision of where to live. Understandably, many children can be frustrated, as they don’t want to start over, and they don’t want to leave their current home and friends.
So, how can you help your children adjust to their new home, and make the relocation process easier?
Moving can be difficult for children, so be sure to help them socialize in their new environment.
- Involve them in the discussion. Let them help make the decision to move. Many children get angry because they feel like they don’t have a choice in the matter. Be sure to listen to their feelings. Many times, they just want to feel like their opinions are heard.
- Discuss some of the exciting aspects of moving. They can help look at new homes. Maybe they will get a bigger room or a bigger backyard. Maybe they can get a pet for the first time. Maybe the new location is warmer, which will allow the children more opportunities to play outside. Be sure to have lots of positives to talk about the move.
- Spend plenty of time with your children. They no longer have their extended family and friends to lean on. They only have you. They will need extra attention in the coming months as they navigate their new town.
- Encourage your children to join sports teams and other clubs. By getting involved in extracurricular activities, they can quickly meet other children. Be sensitive to the fact that it can be hard to make new friends, especially if you move during summer break.
- Act like a tourist in your new neighborhood. What kind of attractions are close to your new town? Are there any amusement parks or aquariums? Spend some time as a family and take a few day trips exploring your new environment.
Relocating can be hard on everyone, but it can be especially hard on children. Make sure that you involve them in the decision so that they feel like they have been listened to. Once you move, be sure to spend time as a family and explore your new town. By listening to your children, and encouraging ways for them to familiarize themselves with the new environment and new friends, you’ll help your children acclimate to their new home more quickly.